How to Have Sex Without Thinking of Your Own Orgasm (And Why You Should Try It)

By Key Barrett

I know what you are thinking after reading my title. What is that and what is the point? Ok, that’s a valid question. First, a definition. It’s a sex act where you consciously accept that you will not have an orgasm, or focus on your pleasure at all. It sounds counter-intuitive. From a purely biological standpoint, there really is no reason to attempt sex with a goal of voiding out your sexual needs and desire for orgasm. And honestly, when we are in the throes of passionate sex, it’s hard not to think of it as a purely biological act driving toward an inevitable conclusion.

The Shame of Feeling Ashamed by Thimble

I told three friends the other day that I wrote BDSM erotica. I even gave them my pseudonym so they could read it. They are the 3rd, 4th and 5th people I’ve told since I started publishing my work in December. I’m not out as a submissive to many people, obviously, and sharing my writing essentially outs me, as it’s all about femdom and it wouldn’t take a genius to put it together. But telling these friends felt right. These are good people: the kind who see the weird in you and like you more for it. After telling them, I quickly said: “Don’t think just because I write about it that I want it to happen to me, ok? A lot of stuff is just for the story. It’s not me. Ok?”

I was lying. I want most what I write about to happen to me. And the things I think they would be most shocked by, the things I was thinking of when I said that to them: I especially want that. I want to be put over someone’s knee and spanked for not making the bed correctly. I want someone to make me eat oatmeal drenched in her piss. A part of me is ashamed of wanting that. And a larger part of me is ashamed for feeling that shame.

Findom 101 by Von Nette

I have strong opinions on topics that are My passion. I want to get right to the point, starting with the topic that’s My greatest passion… Financial Domination.

What a beautiful fetish! Too bad that it has such a questionable reputation. It’s a huge taboo and I’m tired of keeping this wonderful fetish a secret. That will end now. I am the one who will break that taboo!

Obviously, each Dominatrix has her own ways of working but, I’m here to tell you My way and My outlook on these subjects! Grab your notebooks and get ready to be intrigued, here comes FinDom 101 with VonNette!

From strong bonds between subs and their Dommes, to different kinks that are unique and must be treated with respect, I think it is time that I shed some light on the mystery called FinDom.