- How did You get into professional domination?
After years of social play in my teens and twenties as well as being in kinky relationships I chose to offer my skills professionally. Knowing a lot of people (primarily men) who would not be able to or would not want to bring kink into their personal relationship made me realize there was a void to be filled.
2. What attracted You to the profession?
Being a kinkster myself I was attracted of course by the nature of the “work”. But there is a creative and psychological element to each session; an opportunity to intuit where that person needs to go. Knowing I brought them there is very satisfying.
3. What cities have You worked in?
I have lived, played and worked in NYC, Atlanta, Raleigh, Charlotte, NYC again, New Orleans and now Boise. I do enjoy the portable nature of being a Pro Domme and exploring life in new places. But once I am settled in a city that is where my play space stays.
4. Where are You located now?
5. Would You consider yourself a lifestyle dominatrix?
Yes. In my personal relationships I have been fortunate to have partners both comfortable with and into my dominant nature and seeing it as a good fit for them.
6. How long have You been a professional dominatrix?
I have worked professionally as a Domme for over 20 years.
7. How are You different now than You were when You started?
Not too different at all. I have of course developed in terms of skills but am still the same high school girl who cajoled her boyfriend into a date consisting of bondage, tickle torture and forced foot worship 🙂
8. What types of sessions do You specialize in?
I would say my specialties are discipline, medical scenes (with an emphasis on enema play), scat and water sport play and tickle torture. While I do enjoy all my listed interests these are among my very favorites.
9. How are You different from other professional dominatrix?
I would say we are all different from each other; unique in our own ways; offering essentially the same things yet coloured differently by our individual personalities and appearance.
10. How would You describe a typical session?
No session is ever typical. Different people can approach the same fetish or kink from a very different perspective. I do like to chat a bit in person before the session begins (unless it has been negotiated that we begin when I open the door…) and I always offer time afterwards to “come down” and then freshen up before leaving.
11. What is Your style? Are Your sessions more strict, or more fun?
I like to approach my sessions from the psychological aspect first – what is your kink and how do I manipulate that and take you places you may have never dreamed of going. From there my style can range from fun and sensual to extremely harsh depending on the scene. Some scenes such as tickle torture are inherently fun yet sadistic in nature and can even be sensual but not what I would consider a “harsh” scene. To sum up I enjoy variety and would not want to limit myself to any one type of style. I switch comfortably from one to the other sometimes even within the same session.
12. What is Your opinion of the business today?
I think kink has gone more mainstream and that it is a good thing. It gets people talking; gets them interested in trying new things and affords women who have an interest to carve a niche for themselves.
13. If You had advice for someone just getting into professional domination, what would You tell them?
If you are kinky yourself play socially first if you have not already. In any event, educate yourself; there are many great books out there that can help with both the physical skills as well as understanding the mindset. Get on Fetlife; it is socially oriented but a great source of support and knowledge. Get to know yourself and what you enjoy. Don’t do sessions you do not enjoy. Ultimately that will show. Understand that while you are the Domme and in charge you are also in charge of providing the best possible session for your client. Every client is different and should be treated as such. Lastly don’t get hung up on being a “name” or getting the most attention. It is fun to be a leader and be in the scene. But just as with great musicians, writers and visual artists there are great Dommes you have never heard of in every city that have a devoted following.
14. What advice would You have for a submissive who is trying to get in touch with You to set up a session?
Read my site; thoroughly. Then call me or send me an email.
15. Do You accept personal slaves?
I have always kept a cleaning slave; generally a service oriented sissy or submissive male longing to serve. In this respect I am a harsh and very particular Mistress with high expectations. At this time I do not but should I have an opening for this I would post on my site/blog.
16. Do You attend fetish balls, conventions or events?
I attended more social functions when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. Now I tend to be more of a “homebody” and prefer to concentrate on my business and clients although I still attend the occasional function.
17. Do You offer videos, photo sets, online chatting, etc. in addition to in-person sessions?
I do not offer items, photos or videos for sale. Distance training is available; information is on my site.
18. What is something that almost no one knows about You?
That I play the upright bass in a band and adore and basically work for my rescue dogs 🙂
19. What are Your plans for the future?
To keep working at what I love; offering a safe place to explore BDSM and fetish play.
20. Anything You’d like to add?
Embrace your kinky side. Many of my clients have waited decades to explore. Whether you see someone socially or professionally take the plunge and give it a try.
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