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My Descent Into Synn – Guest Post

Miss Sadie Synn's journey into finding her authentic self.

Guest Post by Miss Sadie Synn

 

As a FemDom, it is empowering to stand above a kneeling submissive, as they kiss my boots or serve me. Surrendering control is one of the most precious gifts one can give. I love others giving that to me. The first part of my journey, I started as a slave but it was obvious that I wasn't fit for that role. I knew I was a dominant after that, but I had no confidence in myself.

As I started slowly progressing through my transition I realized that should become my primary focus. In 2014, I was able to begin hormone replacement therapy (HRT). I was blown away by how much change I experienced after just a year of HRT. In truth, it took so long because I had felt resigned to transitioning. Years later, I discovered this was due to PTSD from childhood abuse. I knew myself, but I had not found that certain je ne sais quoi. Although I needed to put myself out there as a Lifestyle Domme, I had no confidence in myself. I had been a hermit for the last five, years so I had absolutely nothing to lose! At worst there would be no change and my situation would be the same.

For the first six months of being a Domme in the lifestyle, it was rough. I didn’t know what I was doing. I had a background from the other side and lots of involvement assisting in scenes, but I no experience being the one in control. I needed to learn how to tactfully stick up for myself while subtly using my femininity. Then I had my first really hot scene. After negotiations, a masochist guided me through using canes. I was hooked.

Being a FemDom helps affirm my own femininity and that may be my favorite thing about it. I often hear trans-women talk about that affirmation from sex with a partner who truly sees them as them, as a woman. My history is complicated when it comes to sex. It carries emotional labor for me because my needs can’t be met.

That said, being a FemDom allows me to feel that affirmation without the emotional labor. That look in my slave’s eyes when they call me Mistress makes my soul sing. Allowing my natural feminine energy to flow through a scene or session erases all the years of physical and verbal trauma I experienced for just being me. What once was the bane of my existence became my strongest strength and it did wonders for my personal well-being. It allowed me to go through TSA with double D’s and an ID with my birth gender.

While serving my country and volunteering did make me feel good about myself, they didn’t let me respect me for who I was. Being a Femdom did. Being in control over submissives and slaves that consensually chose to kneel before me did. With my power being non-consensually taken from me as a child, having others surrender theirs willingly is some of the best therapy in the world.

 

Miss Sadie Synn is a Powerful, Statuesque, Intimidating lifestyle Domme. Standing 6'5"-- without heels--she enjoys using her Goddess-like allure to dominate her slaves. Sadie developed a passion for paddles while being trained in Austin ,TX. This led her to be a Master paddle maker, and her craftsmanship has been felt by many lucky bottoms in the mid-west. She specializes in: paddling, boot and body worship, tease and denial, violet wand play, and being a puppy handler. She is always looking to learn and explore.
 
Sadie has been interviewed by Dr. Sue Storm and for Broadly in Vice Magazine, along with an appearance on the Doctor Susan Block Show. Miss Sadie Synn is a Presenter, and board Liaison on Central Iowa Power Exchange. She volunteers weekly for the local PRIDE center, assisting with the largest LGBTQIA library in the area. Sadie operates a private dungeon doing shoots and sessions, in a quiet neighborhood in Central Iowa.
 
Find her personally at @SadieSynn or at her Dungeon @House_Of_Synn.
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Miss Lydia

Chicago, Illinois

 

Miss Lydia Bio

I am an independent Dom with 9 years of professional experience, having both commercial dungeon and fetish event experience. I cater to MOST fetishes from the vanilla to the hardcore. Be mindful that my ad is for those who are interested in BDSM/fetish/kink-related sessions prior to contacting me. Booking a session requires a minimum of 3 hours notice by phone call at 312-841-5254. I am available most days 10am-midnight (not available Tuesdays). 

 

Favorite Activities

Spanking/Flogging/Paddles/Canes/Whips/Crops; Bondage/Restraints, Rope, CBT/CBB, OTK, Nipple Torture, Foot, Leg, Ass Worship; Cross Dressing/Feminization, Sensory Play, Mummification, Textiles, Tease and Denial, Tickling, Humiliation (verbal and physical), Electrical Stimulation, Hot Wax, Farting Up a Storm, Role Plays, Sploshing (food substances/shaving cream/etc), GS, BS (requires 24 hr notice and deposit to ensure seriousness/follow through)

 

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More on Miss Lydia

Twitter: https://twitter.com/misslydia312

Website: https://bdsm.eros.com/illinois/chicago/files/503112.htm?cat=213

 

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It’s Mixtrix’ World by Miss Kate

She could own you, if she wanted to.

It’s Her World, She Just Lets You Live in It

A Profile on MixTrix by Miss Kate

I don’t idolize Dommes because I’m afraid that I’m going to unconsciously (or consciously) rip off their style. This isn’t to say that I don’t admire or enjoy other Dommes work. I would be lying if I said I didn’t. There are a handful of Dommes that I admire greatly and who inspire me to explore things I may not have previously thought of. MixTrix is probably number one on my list of Dommes that inspire me. She so graciously allowed me to ask her a few questions on her world as a cruel with a sense of humor lifestyle and pro Domme.

 

The Beginning

Casual, Beautiful Mix

My first question was an obvious one: how and when did you discover you were Dominant? She says she did not start identifying as a Domme until later in life, not because she was anything else, but because she didn’t know that there was a word for what she was. She was vaguely aware of the term BDSM but didn’t really know what it was outside of what the media portrayed it as. “My own fetish sexual proclivities led me to the world of femdom, I realized what I had been doing all along and who I already was had a NAME. I had NO idea all this stuff I was into was even a “thing.” Some of it was stuff I thought was just MY weird thing”.

When did she start this professionally then? She started real time sessions about eight years ago and got involved in online Femdom/Findom almost five years ago. When she did enter the online realm, she of course gravitated towards the fetish side of things, seeing as how her own sexual predilections ran to the fetish side. But she is quick to point out that she was late to the party in the technology department.

“There is only so much online search you can do for those kinds of kinks … where it is only a woman giving it to a man before you run into Femdom over and over. I discovered these things I was naturally into had a whole scene built around them called Femdom. And in my own personal relationships I was already practicing Findom without even realizing… it had a name or scene… once I saw what was going on I was like, oh holy shit, this is what I already do! I can and should be doing this.”

 

 

Domme Style

MixTrix counts exposure, dirty talk, human ashtray and furniture, spit fetish, mental and financial domination, CFNM, objectification of all types, watersports, and verbal humiliation as some of her specialties. In fact, it was her love of spitting that made me explore spit fetish. I had never thought about it before I started seeing her Twitter posts featuring it. Not too long after I saw her spit gifs, a sub came to me asking for spit play, which I was more than happy to oblige in. And low and behold, I enjoyed in immensely.

Of course, what activities she does will absolutely vary from sub to sub. That’s the way it should be. While some things might be fun with one sub, it might not be so much with another. And how should you approach her: Make it all about her. What are her favorite and least favorite parts about being a Domme? It’s the power exchange and interacting with her boys and the drama and in-fighting the he scene, respectively. Things I can relate to completely. I often wonder why there this dichotomy in our community: it’s either all love or it cat-fighting.

As part of her online sessions, she says she loves domination sessions via skype. She has even written a little Femdom Skype tutorial. Out of curiosity, I ordered her Skype lesson. While most of it was standard fare for me because I have been conducting online Skype sessions for about a year, I did pick up a few new tips and is a must read for all those newly into the world of online sessions. I highly recommend it if you’re new to online Femdom or new to Skype sessions.

 

Fun Femdom Fact

Ballbusting: I find kneeing men in the balls is more fun than just kicking them because I can get closer and be right in his face. It adds a different more intimate sort of dynamic and the eye contact goes a long way.

 

 

 

Lessons We Can Learn from MixTrix

Very curious, I asked if there was something she had learned that she had wished someone would have told her before entering Dommehood. While she couldn’t think of something off the top of her head, she did say that she thought learning things the hard way, through good old trial and error, is sometimes the best way to learn. Hardest lesson she has learned? You can only count on yourself.

What about a few pieces of advice that she could offer someone considering becoming either a pro or lifestyle

Domme? Without a doubt, it’s to learn and educate yourself about what you are doing as far as fetishes and kinks go. Those kinks are triggers that can help you dominate your sub better. Another piece of advice? Don’t bother engaging in any aspect that you are not comfortable with or that you’re not into yourself. And lastly, don’t do any of it purely for the money or you will end up hating it. Do it for the fun first and then enjoy getting money for the things you find fun. All solid pieces of advice.

My personal thoughts on whether one is born with a dominance trait or if it can be taught tend to lean towards the school of thought: “If ya got it, ya got it”. This is one of my favorite questions to ask other Dommes and I was excited to hear what MixTrix thought. Her thoughts ring similar to mine. “I believe it is something you either are or are not. It is an orientation thing, not an affectation. I believe a person can learn to TOP another, but Domming is inherent.”

 

Will She Be Mentoring Anyone Any Time Soon?

As I mentioned, I don’t really look up to any Dommes. But I did ask Mixtrx if she has someone she looked up to, someone that inspires her to be a better Domme, or a mentor. Not exactly, she says. She says she doesn’t look at things in an individual way, instead she prefers to think collectively. And collectively, she finds all the ladies inspiring, “They all do something sooner or later that makes me say “way to go, you rocked that”.

She, herself also has no interest in mentoring anyone, although she does get asked daily. This doesn’t surprise me in the least. Like I said, she is number one on my list of inspiring Dommes.

 

Personal Time and Self-Care

She points out that her personal and work life, hobbies, sexual interests, and having fun are all one and the same. Working for her isn’t the same as what it may be for other’s working in the same field. She does note that she doesn’t own a smartphone. While she is at home, she spends plenty of time on the internet. The last thing she wants while she’s out for dinner or playing tennis is to be tied to the online world.

She unabashedly says that she engages in whatever pleases her or makes her feel good, pointing out that it has always been a lifelong habit. One thing she does relish in and can’t get enough of: going for long walks by herself. She has so many people vying for her time and she wants some of it too, so she always makes sure she gets it.

 

What is the color of money?

Without a doubt, it is green. Green is the color of envy of course, and money is often the foundation for envy. But green also symbolizes growth and money is the power to grow your options. So, I think of it as green. Plus, I am an American, so green is LITERALLY money color here, which made my answer pretty easy lol.

 

 

As a little tongue and cheek way to end the interview I like to ask a few silly questions. What does she want to be when she grows up? When does she plan on becoming an adult? Does she have an exit strategy? And how lucky does she consider herself? She amusingly says that she was born an adult. She wants to be the “me” she already is when she grows up. It’s Domme ’til death for her. And that she is an extremely lucky person. “The obvious reason is that my lifestyle, hobby, and work are all one and the same. That would make anyone lucky. Beyond that, fortune smiles on me always. And even the bad things are simply a lead up to good ones coming down the road.”

 

Check out MixTrix on Twitter here or at her website here.

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Mistresses of Ceremonies Named for DomCon New Orleans 2017

 

 

New Orleans, LA - Domina Angelina, Madame Margherite, and Mistress Penelope Dreadful of Australia have been named official Mistresses of Ceremonies for DomCon New Orleans 2017. The event brings together professional and lifestyle BDSM enthusiasts from around the world.

Guests of Honor this year include Goddess Cleo from London England, Elana De Luca of New York City, Mistress Ultra Violet from Georgia, and New Orleans favorite Mistress Genevieve.

“Our first DomCon New Orleans was a great success, and it looks like we’ve found a new home in New Orleans!” said Mistress Cyan, event organizer and producer. “The hotel and it’s staff was wonderful. They were so polite, respectful and accommodating to us and our attendees. We couldn’t ask for a better location, right there at The French Quarter!”

Dominants, submissives, fetishists, leatherfolk and the kinky from all over the globe to DomCon for the latest in fetish and bondage gear, classes in new BDSM techniques, discussions on community, legal, and relationship issues, and of course electrifying parties.

Demand for this year’s DomCon New Orleans is high. Vendor booths have sold out and extra rooms have been added for the convention rate reservations.

Sponsors include the AVN Show, Kink University, Stockroom, Orchid and Serpent, The Kink Factory, Whiplr, Spunk Lube and many more. Sponsorships are still available.

DomCon New Orleans will be held October 5-8 at the Astor Crown Plaza Hotel, 739 Canal Street. For photos, guest info, sponsorship opportunities, and details on classes and workshops, go to www.DomConNewOrleans.com.

 

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About DomCon New Orleans

As DomCon Los Angeles gained momentum, BDSM enthusiasts from the east coast and across the Atlantic proposed an east coast version of the convention. The first of these would be in Atlanta. While DomCon Atlanta had a successful run, proposals for a new location were made, and New Orleans was the most popular and sensible location. 2016 marked the first DomCon New Orleans, which was held at the Astor Crown Plaza Hotel. It was one of DomCon’s most successful conventions to date, and plans are to make the 2017 show even more exciting.