Should Kinks, Fetishes and BDSM be taught in schools!?

By Podopheleus

Illustration by Dirk Hooper

Hey there, Beloved Kinksters!

Ok, I have a question for you. Should Kinks, fetishes and BDSM be taught in schools!? Hmm… If you were to ask me, I would say yes, absolutely. Please allow me to explain myself. 

Let’s go back in time

As previously mentioned, I discovered I had a foot fetish at 6 years old, it wasn’t until much later I would discover that I had a thing for Dominant Females. I tried to make sense of it all. Instead, I just felt confused and this carried on through life beyond school. As a matter of fact, through most of my adult life, until I found the courage to visit a Dominatrix. Leading up to that point, I felt a lot of shame around what I desired, almost like I had been doing something unnatural. It was something that no one spoke about. Interestingly enough, our teachers and parents, taught us about the birds and the bees, so that we understand the basic mechanics of sex. We learned all about reproduction, contraception and sexual health. 

Additionally, I think it is important to teach our children that there’s nothing shameful about sex. 

Having said all that, supposing your child doesn’t fit in with the “sexual norm.” As for example, if your child has a kink, a fetish, or an unusual sexual desire. What does that mean for your child?

Should fetishes, kinks, and BDSM be taught in schools!?

This is the way I see it; I grew up feeling like a cat on a hot tin roof, I grew up feeling like an outsider, a freak, because of my unusual desires. I didn’t have anyone to turn to. I couldn’t talk to my parents or my teachers, just imagine how they would have reacted. Let’s face it, fetishes, kinks, femdom is something that is not openly discussed. If I decided to speak up, who knows what the outcome would have been. But if I would’ve had to predict the outcome, I’d say – Erm… Most likely, I would’ve been referred to a sex addiction therapist. Goddammit!!

So, my suggestion is…

To teach our children the very basics of BDSM, kinks and fetishes. For example, what is a kink? What is a fetish? Is it normal to have a fetish? Is it normal to have a kink? What is BDSM? You are probably thinking, why should we teach our children about kinks and fetishes. Believe me, I understand your concerns. I have two daughters, 3 and 1. So in that respect I’m in the same boat as everyone else. Let me reassure you: I am not trying to convert our children into kinksters, or change their sexual beliefs. The fact of the matter is, I don’t want any child to go through what I went through, especially if it is my own children. If schools offered that kind of support, it could prevent depression, suicides, it could save a child. It took me 34 years to fully understand and accept who I am. If only there had been such support back then — life would have been so much easier.

If a teacher is not qualified to teach BDSM, he or she should not be teaching BDSM, right? 

Okay, that is a fair point. So, in that respect, why not simply bring in a guest speaker. As for example, a Professional Dominatrix. Now, I’m not saying that a Pro-Domme should teach our children how to use a strapon dildo. That’s not what I’m saying at all. However, All I am saying is that we should teach our children the very basics of BDSM, fetishes and kinks. As previously mentioned, what is BDSM? What is a fetish? What is a kink? Etc… That’s what I mean when I talk about the very basics. So, our children at least have a basic understanding and provide support if needed. 

OK, I have a question for you ~ ARE SEXUALLY SUBMISSIVE MEN STILL STUCK IN THE CLOSET!?

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What if the parents are opposed to their children being taught about BDSM, kinks, and fetishes? 

That is a great question and being a parent isn’t easy. Okay, so, this is the way I see it. Let me say this one more time. I discovered I had a foot fetish when I was 6 years old. Later, I discovered I had a thing for Dominant Females. I want to make it clear that I had a good upbringing and I was not abused as a child. At 6 years old, I was left feeling confused. I needed reassurance that I was normal, but there was no support provided and that led to anxiety, awkwardness and depression, and it has taken me 34 years to accept who I am. Seriously, what the hell, and I am not the only one who feels this way. I interviewed Manlock who is what one might refer to as a closet submissive. Manlock first encountered a fetish for humiliation at the age of 4 years old. Even up to now, Manlock is struggling to accept his subby side, in fact he almost resents his subby side and views it as a curse. We can see what societal conditioning has done to us. I feel like there are too many of us out there that feel this way, but still, there is no support provided. 

To read the full interview with Manlock, click here;

Let’s just try to imagine for a second that our teachers did provide this kind of education, I do believe the biggest uproar will come from the parents. Now I can’t speak for the other submissive men, but surely this kind of education could have helped to explain what I was feeling at that time. Submissive men, do you agree? Having said that, I don’t know if it would have solved all my issues, but it would have been helpful. Additionally, I was still deeply insecure about my penis size. Furthermore, I was addicted to femdom porn and masturbation. I don’t know what is being taught in schools right now regards to sex ed. Nevertheless, I believe we should be teaching boys about toxic and positive masculinity. What it means to be a real man. What is masturbation? What is healthy masturbation? What is unhealthy masturbation? How to overcome penis size anxiety. Teaching body positivity. But most importantly, teaching our boys to respect women. 

At what age should this kind of sex ed be taught in schools?

I’m no expert, but I would say that children should be taught the basics about fetishes, kinks and BDSM from the age of 12. Then at 16 years old, teens should be given more detailed information as well as individual conversations about fetishes, kinks and BDSM. This kind of education should be open to all children, with the option to opt in or out because it might not be for everyone. However, for those who would like to learn more about this topic, should have the option of a Q & A with a guest speaker, as for example a Professional Dominatrix. I’m not saying whether this is right or wrong, but it is just my point of view. For me, personally, such educational support would have been really helpful.

There we have it, kinksters! What are your thoughts? Should Kinks, Fetishes and BDSM be taught in schools!? I’d love to hear your views. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog. Please feel free to share this post with others. 

Feel free to hit me up on Twitter @podofeleus and Instagram @Podopheleus.

Much Kink Love,
Podopheleus

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